Eharmony Is A Waste Of Time
What you’ll learn on this page:
- eHarmony Review: Why eHarmony is better than Match & okCupid
- Learn how to message women on eHarmony & have a date by this weekend.
- Downloadable Templates that improve responses by 800%
- See clear examples.
- The latest eHarmony discount promo code – 2015
eHarmony is perfectly suited for Men of any age who:
► Are Getting back into the dating scene after a long relationship
► Or want to start dating more attractive women
► Live in the either the United States, Canada, United Kingdom or Australia
eHarmony vs Match: Fight!
eHarmony did not start out as my favorite dating site.
But I’m in the middle of my 150 Date Challenge now and more than half of all my dates come from eHarmony and I’ve grown to really like it.
I tried eHarmony for a fixed period. My account said I would be billed again on a certain date (e.g. 1/12/2021) for renewal. Six months before this date (e.g. 1/6/2021), I am billed a whopping $600+ for renewal. It is a scam where they give you false information about renewal so that you will likely not cancel in time.
- I skeptically joined eHarmony thinking it wouldn’t be very good. I read over & over again that eHarmony was a waste of time from several different PUA’s (that’s pick-up artists) This consistent low view of eHarmony in the PUA community is exactly what I think has made it so good.
- Eharmony.com is bad. From fake profiles, to spammers complete waste of time and money. After I joined, I made contact with about six people that I could tell were actually real. However, after that, it seems like everything went south. It has only been two weeks and I have received more than ten times that in fraudsters and spammers.
Don’t get me wrong, both Match & okcupid are good and I use both but the results I’ve been getting on eHarmony are better and many eDatingDoc Academy students are having the same experience.
HOWEVER, if you don’t use the site properly, you’ll get crappy results.
What Is The Success Rate Of Eharmony
Ahhhh, but have no fear.
Below, I’ve compiled all of my eHarmony specific secrets & best practices for you to use. The devil is in the details so be sure to pay close attention.
eHarmony Review: Why is eHarmony so good?
- Quality of Women
- Lack of Competition
I skeptically joined eHarmony thinking it wouldn’t be very good. I read over & over again that eHarmony was a waste of time from several different PUA’s (that’s pick-up artists) This consistent low view of eHarmony in the PUA community is exactly what I think has made it so good. The douche PUA guys don’t recommend it, so the PUA minions don’t flock to it, so there is less competition and the guys that do join are just regular guys (not PUA’s) that lack online dating training. So when my academy students join they dominate the website and easily meet the women they are most interested in. On top of that the women only receive a small number of matches per day so they literally can’t be bombarded by messages like they are on other dating sites.
Ok, Let’s get started with the eHarmony specific details:
Lesson #1: Making first contact:
eHarmony Email Tips
There are a few ways to make contact on eHarmony but you’ll only use two of them.
- Quick Questions (This begins the guided communication)
- eH Mail (This skips the guided communication)
- Send a smile (Never use this)
- Secure Call (Never use this)
1. When to use the eHarmony guided communication quick questions:
Start with the quick questions if the girl is somewhat close to your “league”.
2. When to skip & go straight to eH Mail:
Go straight to eH Mail contact option if she is a way outside of your “league” or you are REALLY interested in her.
Note:
You know, how we give women a number, like “WHOAH!She’s a solid 10 baby!” In person, you may be a 8 or 9 but if you haven’t been through the eDatingDoc Academy then your “online number” is probably much lower. A good sign is if you are not getting responses from the women that you know would like you in person. If this is happening to you, there is a 100% chance you are doing something wrong so check this out after reading this guide.
How to use the Quick Questions with Examples
After you send your quick-questions, she’ll respond and ask you 5 quick questions in return.
You could select the multiple choice answers like most guys do.
And you could pack your bags and call it a day.
Because that’s why most guys fail – doing what every other guy does…
Here’s what to do instead. (This is powerful so don’t disregard it)
ALWAYS CHOOSE“Write your own response” (examples below)
This works SO well yet is so simple.
Always write out awesome responses.
I know, I know
This would take a ton of time if you have to write out a great response every time but you only need to write an awesome response once.
Then save it to a word document so you can cut & paste that answer when the question is asked again by another girl, and it will be asked again.
And to make it even easier for you.
I created that word document for you. Here is The eDatingDoc Quick-Response Blueprint for eHarmony with the top questions women ask and example answers.
You can use the examples as a guide but definitely add responses that are authentic, true to your life & personality. Here are the examples in the download.
[fu]eHarmony Quick Questions & Answer Examples
If you were taken by your date to a party where you knew no one, how would you respond?
►Start twerking and wait for the ladies to crowd around, oh yeah! (or not)
On Saturday night, would you rather go to:
►I like to change it up but I’m going Downtown for the Big Brothers Big Sisters charity event with some friends this Saturday. (It’s a great cause – do good while having fun!)
Would you rather date someone who is:
►So damn amazing that every time you walk away I make a fist, reach up in the sky and say LORD help me! Then lean over to whoever is around and say, “Yup – I’m dating her”.
Which sort of date sounds like the most fun to you?
►A comedy club sounds like a good idea. You know what makes the comedians even funnier?
When in a relationship, how much personal space do you generally find you need?
►I think personal space and having one’s own time is important to making any relationship work.
If I had a bad day, what is the first thing you would do for me?
►I’d say awww baby, give you a big hug and kisses then do the sexy man shuffle in my speedos (Surprise!)
Your idea of a romantic time would be:
►A wine and Vosges chocolate picnic at the park in the evening.
Your idea of adventure is:
►Finding a hidden pirate ship in a cave 🙂
Which of the following quirks would bother you most about your partner?
►Squeezing the toothpaste from the middle so it looks like it was attacked by a monkey.
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Remember to be balanced!
As you can see, some of my answers are playful while others are straight forward. I can’t emphasize this enough! If you’re too playful your results will tank because she’ll think you’re childish. If you’re too serious, you’re results will tank because she’ll think you take life too seriously and can’t have fun!
Advanced Tip:
Have a conversation within the quick-question response area to build more of a connection.
Here’s an example of what I mean:
Her interesting response to one of the quick-questions:
So when she sends me her quick questions, I made one response into a mini conversation by mentioning what she just wrote.
This builds more of a connection and makes the guided communication process even more interesting.
Making you the Most Interesting Man in the World… well at least on eHarmony.
Lesson #2: – eHarmony Makes or Breaks
The next step in the guided communication is the Makes or Breaks.
Not a big deal right?
el Wrong-o!
Pay attention because these can communicate a lot about you.
Especially the Breaks.
For example, I’ve seen guys select these breaks:
What does this communicate to the girl?
That you’ve probably been cheated on, you have trust issues because you were cheated on, there was probably a reason you were cheated on and she doesn’t want to waste her time finding out why you were cheated on….
The best breaks to select are centered around the type of person she is internally not how she is with others.
There are a few exceptions.
Lesson #3: – eHarmony Dig Deeper Questions
This is the final step of the guided communication before you make it to eH mail.
You must type out your response to these questions.
Time to shine.
Most guys reply with boring answers at every step that scream “I’m lazy and I’m boring!”
But you?
Hell to the NO!
Your answers will sometimes be silly… sometimes be intelligent and informative but never DULL & LAZY.
And just like the quick questions, save your responses (to the eDatingDoc eHarmony Quick-Response Blueprint) so you can just cut & paste that answer when the same question is asked again by another girl. And like I said before, it will be asked again.
To make that easier & clearer, I listed the top Dig Deeper questions women ask and included example answers to each of these.
If you didn’t download it earlier, click here to get it..
[fu]eHarmony Dig Deeper Questions & eHarmony Response Examples
Tonight you can do anything you want, no penalties, no reprisals, and the cost is unimportant. What are you going to do?
►Run around and knock a bunch of shit off all the shelves at Walmart while it’s really busy and yell “Whoaaaaaaa Yeaaahhhhhhhh.”
What do you think are the three best traits you have to offer a partner?
►A sexy sexy beast, laid back & logical. An example of my superior logic: Mom says, “Alcohol is your enemy.” Jesus says, “Love your enemy.” Case closed.
What is the most adventures thing you’ve done in the past year?
►I drove across Europe for 2 months checking out 11 countries. Awesome experience! Had a beer at the same bar the character Robin Hood was based on drank at in the year 1100. Pretty cool.
What are you looking for in a relationship partner?
►You have depth and a good heart, You don’t get your happiness through material possessions, not to get too mushy but someone that’s affectionate, you’re balanced so enjoy nights out.
They say life is about simple pleasures, what is your simplest pleasure, and how does it make you feel?
►Playing basketball with friends – It’s this physical thing to push myself until I’m destroyed and I sleep like a baby and wake up rejuvenated. That and perfect Apple Pie.
What is the best thing an ex could say about you?
►That I changed her life for the better.
If they were making a movie about your life, what would it be called and which actor would play you?
►It would be called “I’ve never done that – Let’s do it!” of course it would be played by Brad Pitt.
Describe your parents’ relationship with each other.
►They have an amazing relationship: My mom recently convinced my Dad to change the horn on the car so it makes gunshot sounds. People move out of the way much faster now.[/fu]
Lesson #4: – eHarmony Mail
I’m throwing in a secret right now for the guys that were not lazy and actually read this far.
I call this step “Squash the Slackers”
I recommend combining the previous step with this step every single time.
So instead of sending the girl your 3 Dig Deeper questions within the normal eHarmony process. You instead skip to the eHarmony mail and send those same questions. (Example email below)
Eharmony Is A Waste Of Time Meme
Women are very interested in your answers to their 3 questions. So you’re still answering them but you’re making it more interesting and doing something no other guy is doing. You’re also shortening the long process and making that first email come very easily. Now you don’t have to wonder how to start the conversation. This email does it for you.
Here is the sample eHarmony email to send when you skip this step:
Now you need to send the next few emails & get her phone number. This is where my 3×5 email system comes in. See item #2 in the quick-action homework below.
Your Quick-Action Homework for a great date
in less than 7 days on eHarmony:
- Sign-up to eHarmony – Here is the special registration page where you can try it for free. If you use this guide you will want to continue the membership so use this (2015 Discount Promo Code : EHCODE12)
- Follow this guide you just read when contacting the women you’re interested in & you’ll have a date with an amazing girl this week.
If you are serious about online dating, chances are that you have heard about eHarmony. This highly popular dating platform is aimed at serious singles who are looking to get married. However, many people who consider signing up for a subscription on the site ask the same question: Why is eHarmony so expensive?
eHarmony is so expensive because the site uses a matching algorithm that is proven to work. The platform also has a large user-base of serious and stable singles who can afford the cost.
The site is thus a natural fit for marriage-seekers who are willing to pay extra to increase their chances of finding their soulmate.
I have written this article to showcase why singles keep signing up to the site despite its high cost. This information will help you judge whether the platform is right for you and whether the cost of a subscription seems justified.
Less fake accounts
Online dating platforms have always been full of fake accounts. eHarmony has fake accounts on it, but the amount of them is lower than on most competing sites.
This is in large part due to people not bothering to pay the premium cost to use the platform just to make a fake account.
Free accounts on eHarmony cannot message other users and are useless for scammers. The high cost of a subscription thus helps weed out fake profiles.
10% of all new accounts created on dating sites are fake. To learn more about the dangers of online dating and how to avoid them, read my article on the subject here.
Serious users
eHarmony is a platform where mature and serious marriage-seekers can meet. Because of this, users generally have their stuff together and have a stable income.
This means that the type of singles that eHarmony is marked toward can also afford the cost of a subscription.
Anyone who has ever made the mistake of using a free dating app with the goal of getting married will understand why this is important.
13% of Tinder users report forming a relationship that lasted more than a month with someone they met on the app. This number speaks to how difficult it is to see long-term success on a platform that is not built for it.
More expensive does not always mean better, but the cost of a platform will shape its user-base. In the case of eHarmony the pricing helps gather serious marriage-seekers who can afford the cost onto one platform.
Not looking to get married? There are many premium platforms available that are not all about marriage. Read my article on how to get started on Match here.
Proven results
eHarmony has been operating since 2000. This means that by now we have a clear idea about how well their services work.
There are 2 key statistics do a good job of showing how effective eHarmony is at producing marriages.
1 is regarding the quality and the second is regarding the quantity of matches.
1. Less than 4% of marriages that are formed on eHarmony end in divorce. This statistic alone is a major reason I recommend eHarmony for most people who are looking for marriage online. This divorce rate is ten times less than the US national average, which is about 50%. To put it simply: $15 more for a monthly subscription is a lot more affordable than a divorce.
2. More than 500 marriages happen every day as a result of couples meeting on eHarmony.In other words: the site is big and the site works. Despite the high subscription cost of the site, a lot of people still use it. This results in a large user-base, which in turn makes it even likelier for you to meet someone who is both compatible with you and lives nearby.
The fact that eHarmony can document these types of results help justify the cost of a subscription. This is especially true when considering the amount of overly positive advertisements for competing dating sites.
Matching algorithm
Many dating sites require you to take a personality test upon signing up. These tests are used to determine how compatible you are with other users.
Matching systems will never fully replace human judgment. However, they can be very helpful.
eHarmony bases its matching system on 29 dimensions of compatibility. When two people match, it is because this matching system deems them compatible.
When visiting a profile, you get an overview of how well you match with the user. You will also find graphs that detail why you are a match.
You might match well in terms of habits, but not as well for interests.
You might have very similar driving forces, but different ways of communicating. Maybe both of you judge the world using intellect, but only one of you judges the world using intuition.
This makes it significantly easier for you to visualize what a marriage with that person will look like.
This feature is the main reason marriages are so frequent and successful.
Free to try
Signing up to eHarmony is free. You cannot find a partner using a free account, but it can be used for understanding what the platform feels like using.
You can take the personality test and see how it used for matching you with other users.
Thus, anyone who signs up for a subscription has seen whether eHarmony feels right for the first. Having this option lets singles determine for themselves whether the site is worth the cost or not.
I advise trying the site out before signing up for a subscription. No dating site will be worth your money if it does not feel right for you.
To learn more about what you can and cannot do with a free account on eHarmony read my guide here.
Final thoughts on why eHarmony is so pricey
eHarmony is a high-end dating site with one of the highest monthly costs in the industry.
Thus, I advise against signing up for the platform if you are not looking for marriage or you are not willing to commit to spending time on the site.
If you are looking for marriage online, a subscription on eHarmony is the best way of reaching this goal. The site was designed for this purpose and has proven time and time again that it works.
Would you like to learn about other alternatives for finding marriage online? I have written an extensive article on the subject:7 best dating sites for marriage.
If you would rather sign up for a free account on eHarmony, go here to get started.